The amount of capability to earn more or take care of your health or become successful depends upon a single variable known as Self Esteem. How much confidence and belief you have in yourself and what exactly you think and feel about yourself is really important for your achievements and accomplishments.
The author says self-esteem plays the biggest role directly or indirectly behind depression. So, it is important to understand this topic.
Introduction to Confidence
While flying, the air hostess instructs the passengers to first wear an oxygen mask and then help others to wear the masks. This is said because when a mishap happens in the air then there will be 3 seconds to wear an oxygen mask otherwise you might not breathe. The point is if you can’t breathe yourself then how you can help others to breathe. So, helping oneself is more important and foremost.
Similarly, in life, one needs to have confidence in themselves so that one can be helpful to others. Therefore, one must create self-esteem. There are three pillars from which you can develop your self-esteem.
Ther are as follow
1) Living Consciously to gain Confidence
In this fast pacing world, one is always distracted by one or the other things. They forget their way of thinking something in their mind. This is what is said that one needs to live consciously that is in the moment. One must let go of the past and d not worry about the future. This way one will be focused and ultimately be happier plus peaceful.
Living consciously is about taking control of your life, about thinking about your decisions rather than making them without thought, about having a life that we want rather than settling for the one that befalls us.
Focus Your Attention, Stop Being Distracted.
Start focusing more. Do one thing at a time. When you spend time with people, be present instead of zoning out on your smartphone.
2) Self Acceptance
Embrace The Truth, Even If It Is Bitter
Learn to live with the truth. Stop telling yourself lies about what you are or what you should do so that you can finally be happy. Think about the areas of your life where you aren’t honest with yourself or others. You’ll find a part of yourself you can’t accept.
Take gradual steps. Speak the truth to trusted people first. And slowly you’ll be able to come out onto the other side.
Do not blindly accept yourself. There are 2 situations
1. You can change things by taking actions
2. You cannot change things by doing anything
For example, if you are overweight and you want to reduce it then take action by exercising. Here you can change the situation.
But for example, your height is not in your control so don’t worry just accept how you are.
Become Self-Aware (Confidence)
Take some time to figure out what you value in life the most. It might be health, love, achievement, adventure, creativity, and so on. Know your desires.
And know your emotional nature: how you treat yourself, how you treat others, and when you feel the most alive.
3) Develop Positive Values
Positive values raise consciousness, negative values lower consciousness. Choose courage, desire, compassion, knowledge, reason, energy (with exercising, physical activity), and intention over cowardice, apathy, cruelty, ignorance, irrationality, disease, and passivity.
Conclusion || Confidence
CONFIDENCE IS KEY TO HAVING A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL LIFE BUT THE PROBLEM IS MOST OF THE PEOPLE HAVE ISSUES WITH THEIR CONFIDENCE DUE TO LOW SELF-ESTEEM SO HERE IN THIS BLOG THERE ARE SOME GOLDEN PILLARS PRACTICES TO PRACTICE TO HAVE A PERFECT SELF-ESTEEM AND HIGH CONFIDENCE.
When an inner situation is not made conscious it appears outside as fate.